When it comes to not taking things personally and knowing when to apply Sigmund Freud’s psychoanalysis, there are several key lessons that can be drawn from Freudian theory and modern interpretations of his work:

1. Understanding Projection:

• Freud’s concept of projection can help explain why people sometimes react negatively or criticize others. In projection, individuals defend themselves from their own unwanted feelings by attributing them to others. Recognizing that people’s harsh remarks or negative behavior might reflect their own inner conflicts rather than something about you can help you avoid taking things personally.

• Lesson: If someone’s criticism feels more about them than about you, it likely is. Understanding projection helps you detach from others’ judgments.

2. The Role of the Unconscious:

• Freud believed much of our behavior is driven by unconscious desires, fears, or unresolved conflicts from childhood. Understanding that other people’s actions may stem from deep-seated psychological issues helps you interpret behavior more objectively, without internalizing their reactions.

• Lesson: People’s behavior is often driven by unconscious motives, which are out of your control. This awareness helps you to not take their actions as a direct reflection of your worth.